Nov 11, 2018

Enjoying Christmas Day Spent all by Yourself



The Christmas Day is often associated to the day of spending your best time with your family, relatives and friends. In fact, for most cultures that have Christian backgrounds, Christmas is best spent when they’re united with their families and loved ones. There will be times, however when it’s really impossible to be with loved ones during the celebration of important holidays like Christmas.


For different reasons, there are people who will be celebrating the holidays alone. Do you believe that you CAN still have the best Christmas ever, even away from home? Well, this article aims to prepare you what to do to best enjoy the Christmas Day even when you’re alone.

There may be many reasons such as work, study, company projects or events why you need to go in a distant place far from home during Christmas (or just in any other occasions); but being away from your family is not a reason to frown and live an unhappy disposition during Christmas. Don’t dwell too much on the fact that you’re away from the people very dear to you on this important occasion. Instead, take it as a challenge to work hard and move forward. As the famous cliché once tell us: “THINK POSITIVE!”

Situations like this (when you really can’t go home for Christmas) may even result to be a blessing in disguise because sometimes, being away may strengthen your relationships with your families back home. In my case, ever since I graduated college, I have to spend my Christmas away from my family because I work many miles away from our province. Yep, I haven’t celebrated Christmas with my family for three years now. And yes, being away from home even during Christmas somehow help to build a strong relationship with our family.

It’s during my rest days from work when I had the opportunity to talk to my family back home through the use of today’s modern technology—the mobile phone. To be honest, I’m not the type of person who talks about how valuable my family is, but with our constant conversations on the phone, I’ve conveyed how they mean to my life especially during Christmas. Yes, we may have been separated many miles apart, but our strong family ties are even made stronger; and that’s why I consider being away from them as a blessing in disguise.
So, based on experience and others’ common experiences, here’s how you can best enjoy Christmas although away from home:

1. Make sure to communicate with your loved ones
.Communication is really important as it connects you to your loved ones back home. However, constant communication is a different story. Bear in mind that Christmas only takes place once a year. It is important to spend even a short span of time conversing with your families.If you’re away, make use of today’s technology—you can call them via phone, or even exchange messages through text, or e-mail if possible. Video calling is another notable option; Skype may be best if your families back home have computer and internet access. (Tip: Even tablets and android phones have mobile applications for Skype which you can use!)

2. Buy yourself some gifts. Why not? We buy gifts for others at one point, so you should also treat yourself at Christmas. The great thing about buying gifts for yourself is that you get exactly what you want in the color, shape and size you want. Wrap them up on great Christmas paper and put them under the tree to open on Christmas morning.Even though you know what they are, it’s exciting to have new special things on Christmas.

3. Plan a great Christmas meal. Yes,Christmas may be incomplete if meals aren’t served. Having sumptuous meals on your table during Christmas? That’s just so awesome. If you happen to visit fellow Filipinos on Christmas, rest assured you will be delighted to see the variety of meals prepared on their table such as spaghetti, cakes, salads and others.On the other hand, when you’re in a Japanese household, one thing that will catch your attention is the presence of the Japanese Christmas cake. In Japan, it is tradition to eat cake on Christmas. So, don’t be surprised whenever you are offered the cake on Christmas! (Tip: DO you have the passion in cooking? Baking a cake for Christmas might be a good idea to consider.)

4. Take decorations! It'll make your time merry to decorate on Christmas. Try it, the feeling is awesome! (For real!)

5. Go to church, this will mean you can spend Christmas with others. I believe going to church is a means that you will think more about the real meaning of Christmas and discover it is just as special whether you have hundreds of people to celebrate with or no one at all.

6. Reach Out to Others. Yes,try to focus on others.
Christmas is the best time for volunteering and being with others at church, or any civic activities, or even charity works. The act of giving also helps in reminding you of all of the blessings that you have in your life. Giving your time and effort to people in need feels much more rewarding than receiving a gift. After all, this is the season of giving.

7. Think positive. Be positive. Drive change. The fact that they’re away from home, most people forget that they are to enjoy their own company around Christmas. Why? Because they are too busy feeling sorry for themselves. This can spoil their entire time. Think positive thoughts and remember the true meaning of the season and you can still have a great time. Maybe even better than if you were with family.

In closing, make Christmas truly a one-big event to remember. Not everyone will make it to the next one so we can only make the most of those we have right here, right now. And always remember…Christmas is a wonderful thing,even if you're at home or not.

Happy Holidays!

Note: 
This article was originally published in 2014 by EMMAGAZINE, a magazine I used to write for that was based in Japan and had Filipino and Japanese audiences. Thanks to Mr. Butch Causing, the editor-in-chief for the trust. 

How to Make Someone You Love (Who Doesn't Love You) Love You Back

Falling in love with someone who doesn't love you back is difficult. How can you make him or her love you back? If you tried hard and searched for credible answers to this question, there can never be a cool answer my friend!

In the first place, one cannot simply command someone to love him or her back. That my friend is due to the fact that we are given with hearts that cannot just be dictated who to love and who not to love. True love waits, they say.

If you are really meant for each other, you will have this person for life at the right place and at the right time.

Let us also accept the fact that one cannot simply be persuaded to love you back even if you have exerted countless efforts to win him or her.

Bear in mind that the heart beats, and it beats faster to someone who is meant for it.

Nov 4, 2018

Spoken Word Poetry: Kumusta?


Spoken Word Poetry: Kumusta?

Junrey R. Belando
October 14, 2018


Kumusta ka na? Masakit pa ba ang mga sugat sa puso mo 
dulot ng taong dati mong sinisinta?
Salamat naman kung okay ka na at unti-unti nang naghilom ang sugat 
o mga sugat sa puso mong kamakailan lang ay tila durog na durog na.
Pinupuri kita sa angkin mong tapang sa pagkubli ng sakit sa damdamin 
sapagkat sa panlabas na anyo ay waring hindi mo alintana.
Ang iyong taglay na tapang at lakas 
upang patuloy na bumangon ay talagang kahanga-hanga.

Nararapat sayo ay gawin kang isang bayani, 
bayani katulad nina Bonifacio, Jacinto at Mabini
Kasintapang mo sila 
bagama’t damdamin lamang at sarili ang iyong sandata
Tunay na hindi matatawaran
 ang ankin mong tapang sa pagkubli ng iyong pagkabalisa
Sapagkat sa labas at publiko 
waring buhay mo’y napaka perpekto 
'pagkat maligaya ang iyong ipinapakita.

Ngunit ang hindi nila alam habang ikaw ay malayang nakikipag-usap o tumatawa
Habang sa paggawa ng iyong mga takda-- hapon man o sa umaga
Habang sa mundo mong ginagalawan ikaw ay abalang-abala
Ay nananaig pa rin sa puso mo ang hapdi, kirot at buhay na walang-gana.

Ngunit bakit sa madla ay iba naman ang iyong ipinapakita?
Bakit kahit pag-iyak ay hindi mo man lang magagawa
Patunay ba ito na ikaw ay patuloy pa ding nagdurasa
Mula sa sakit at hapdi ng kahapong naglalaro pa din sa iyong alaala?

Nasaan na ang mga ngiting 'yon na tunay na maligaya?
Nasaan na ang buhay mong dati-rati ay kaysigla?
Nasaan na ang dating ikaw na tunay na napakaligaya?

Kapatid, tama na. Bumangon ka na at buksan ang iyong mga mata
Buhay mo ay may saysay kahit wala na ang dati mong sinisinta
Kapatid tama na. 
Pakatandaan na hindi ka nag-iisa, 
sapagkat naririyan naman mga taong sa kanila, ikaw ay mahalaga.
Kaya’t bangon na, alisin ang mga bagay na syang nakapiring sayong mga mata
 at harapin ang panibagong yugto pagkat alalahanin mo,
 habang buhay may pag-asa.

SPOKEN WORD POETRY: BUMABANGON


Katha ni: JUNREY BELANDO


Wala akong pakialam, wala na akong nararamdaman
Wala na akong dapat balikan pa, kaya’t wala na rin dapat pag-usapan
Wala na akong sasabihin sapagkat itong puso’y kumbinsido na
Kumbinsido na itong puso’y babangon muli mula sa pagkalugpok
Babangong muli mula sa kanyang pagkamarupok

Kaya’t kahit na tila walang tigil itong mga dagok
Na pilit sumisira sa dating matibay na kahibangan
Ngayon itong puso ay pilit na lumalaban
Lumalaban tayo, lumalaban itong pusong lugmok na lugmok sa kahibangan.

Ayoko na, ayokong-ayoko nang balikan pa
Mga masasayang araw, gabi at oras
Mga dating kaligayahan na sa ngayo’y nakabaon na lamang 
sa alaala ng kahapon.

Ayoko na, ayoko na!
Iyan ang mga katagang nasa aking isipan
Iyan ang mga katagang bumabalot sa aking katauhan
Iyan ang mga katagang nais kong paniwalaan at aking paninindigan
Dahil sa sakit ng dating pag-ibig na puno ng kahibangan.

Ngunit bakit hanggang ngayon ay tila umaasa pa rin
Bakit hanggang ngayon ay umaasa pa din
Bakit naglalaro sa aking isipan na muli ay siya’y makapiling?
Bakit tila ang puso’y hindi natuto sa dinanas na sugat at kabiguan din…

Haaaay! teka muna at itigil na nga. tandaang lahat ng dati ay pawang kahibangan lamang
Kahibangan na sa aking damdamin ay tila bumubulag nang buong tapang
Kahibangan lamang na nais kong wakasan at iwanan nang tuluyan
Ngunit bakit? Bakit may isang tinig o damdamin pa ring pilit umaasa
Umaasang may mangyaring maganda gayong wala naman talagang pag-asa
Pag-asa? Oo, umaasa. Bakit itong damdaming sawi
Ay hindi pa rin mapakali? Bakit umaasa pa rin na  may maganda pa ngang mangyayari?
Bakit tila hindi natuto ang puso sa gitna ng naranasang pasakit?

Puso, tama na. Bumangon ka’t idilat ang mga mata
Sa katotohanang sa pagitan ninyong dalawa
Ay ikaw lang naman ang umaasa
Tanggapin ang katotohanang ang lahat ng iyon 
Lahat ng mga iyon...ay wala lang naman pala sa kanya.